We’re all familiar with the idea of alcohol as a social lubricant.
We used to use alcohol to feel more comfortable in social settings, or even as a way to avoid serious or deep conversations (it really lets you stay shallow/on the surface when you’re constantly going back to the bar for refills or coaxing people to get one more drink!).
But apparently, it goes a step further: poor social skills can be a factor that leads people to develop alcohol use disorders (teen drinkers at greater lifetime risk).
Researchers studied boys in sixth grade (yes, people start drinking that young) and discovered that those most at risk of becoming regular drinkers by eighth grade were those who lacked social skills. Anxiety, behavioral problems and learning difficulties were also contributing factors.
The idea that alcohol is a shortcut to fitting in isn’t revolutionary, but it has interesting implications for helping kids avoid drinking in the first place. Maybe we’ve moved on too quickly from stuffy traditions like cotillion (the custom of teaching etiquette and social skills that’s mostly practiced by the wealthy). Maybe there’s a modern version that can help kids learn to feel more comfortable being themselves amid strong social pressure, expressing difficult emotions in a respectful way, and connecting authentically with friends.
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